Minimalism for Friendships

Minimalism is the trend sweeping the nation: women are paring down their closets into capsule wardrobes and Marie Kondo is encouraging us to eliminate any sock that doesn't bring us joy.  I've started to apply the same concept to my circle of friends.  As a mom, my free time is scarce and so I'm choosing to be more intentional about where I spend it.  I am keeping a much tighter tribe these days, and I find it much more satisfying.  I only have a finite amount of time and I would rather invest more in a few quality friends with whom I feel a deep genuine connection than splitting it up amongst a variety of less meaningful friendships.  I would rather have two people to call when I have a problem, than score 1,000 likes on social media.

I've cut loose the relationships which never progressed beyond small talk.  Instead, I am cultivating the kinds of friendships where we are able to be vulnerable and honest.  Honesty can get a little weird with me; I need friends who can appreciate the dark and inappropriate twists that my humor can sometimes take.  

My philosophy on finding your tribe is simple: 

Edit out the ones who waste time with petty gossip and negativity.

Embrace the people who bring out the best in you and remember your stories.  

Those are your people.